This time last year, I was dating a man who was cute, kind, and great in bed. But he was also financially unstable—and not because he didn’t make good money, but because he didn’t manage it well. He lived check to check, and I don’t know if you’ve ever dated a man who lives that way, but baby…it’s very ghetto. Zero stars. DO NOT RECOMMEND.
And it wasn’t just the money. His night work schedule wrecked my sleep and had my routine out of whack. But still, I accommodated, contorted, and sacrificed to make it work. Why? Because I was physically attracted, the sex was fire, and I romanticized every. single. red. flag. As women, we’re conditioned to nurture, fix, and heal. So instead of walking away, we overstay—trying to mold men into the partners we wish they could be. But that energy is often misplaced. It’s not your job to raise a man. Redirect that nurturing power back to yourself.
If this sounds familiar—if you’ve ever stayed too long, tried too hard, or confused sexual chemistry with compatibility—Undickmatized was made for you. You don’t have to keep loving men who drain you and shrinking to make it work. Yes, the sex may be great. But we don’t talk enough about the ways we abandon ourselves because we’re attracted, hopeful, and loyal. And honey, being loyal to the wrong man is self-betrayal dressed in devotion.
Eventually, I walked away. Then, he suggested couples counseling—and I went back. We did several sessions over four months. It didn’t save us, because it wasn’t meant to. Therapy isn’t about forcing a connection—it’s about finding clarity, communication, and sometimes, conscious uncoupling. Between that and my own therapy, I had the tools to release him with love. No chaos or clinging onto what’s not working. Just a clean, compassionate goodbye.
Was it easy? Hell no. I was lonely, horny, and heartbroken. But I had the tools to grieve, ground myself, and glow up ✨ That journey birthed Undickmatized—a soul-shifting guide for women who are tired of settling and sacrificing in struggle love. Now? I’m in an aligned, nurturing connection where I’m valued, prioritized, and yes—still having GREAT sex 😈 But, the BMW couldn’t have pulled up if I didn’t get the Buick out the way. So hear me when I urge you not to let a soul tie keep you from your soulmate. Get Undickmatized today to stop settling for “potential,” sacrificing your sanity, and trying to save a man who was never your assignment today ✨
