Heteroflexible or Homoflexible? Discovering Your Place on the Sexuality Spectrum 💛

Sexuality is a beautiful, vibrant, evolving spectrum that touches every aspect of our lives. And as Pride Month is here, we find ourselves reflecting on identity, desire, and authenticity. Thankfully, in 2025, sexuality is no longer confined to rigid categories. Instead, it’s a kaleidoscope of experiences that defy binary norms. Two sexual orientations that defy these norms are Heteroflexible and Homoflexible. Have you occasionally thought of building a relationship or desiring someone of the same sex as a straight person, or the opposite sex as a queer person?  You may identify yourself with these orientations 🏳️🌈

Could You Be Heteroflexible? How to Know if You’re Not Fully Straight

“Heteroflexible” describes someone who usually prefers the opposite sex but experiences isolated sexual attraction (or encounters) with people of the same sex. Heteroflexibility can manifest both romantically (desiring companionship) and sexually (seeking physical intimacy). I identify as homoflexible because 95% of women aren't going to evoke sexual desire within me. However, Rihanna does something to me!! And I’d be open to an isolated sexual encounter with her. Have you ever experienced that? Meaning, if you’re straight, do you have rare instances where a person of the same sex sparks desire in you? If yes, then you may be heteroflexible too! For a heteroflexible person, same-sex attraction doesn't change their overall orientation. And you are flexible enough to give yourself the freedom to explore same-gender connections on the rare occasions desire is sparked. Fluidity is key here—heteroflexibility acknowledges that attraction isn’t always neatly categorized.

Homoflexible vs. Bisexual: What’s the Difference in Desire and Identity?

“Homoflexible” means you’re primarily attracted to and desire intimate, emotional, and sexual connections with people of the same gender as you, and you’ll also experience isolated instances of sexual attraction and desire with people of the opposite sex. While same-gender orientations are your main draw, you remain open to selectively acting on opposite-sex attractions that may arise from time to time. This doesn't make you bisexual, however, because bisexuality encompasses an equal attraction to both genders. Which means you are equal parts hetero and homosexual. On the other hand, homoflexibility indicates your sexuality exists on a spectrum and you embrace fluidity, instead of suppressing and dismissing, when your desires shift and expand at times.

Your Desire Isn’t Broken—It’s Just Not Binary: Celebrate the Spectrum🌈

Sexuality isn't binary; it's a vibrant spectrum that transcends labels, unlike the traditional view that people are either heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. Flexible people understand the spectrum of sexuality and recognize that attraction and desire can vary widely among individuals.

Are you curious to know where you are on the spectrum? Your Authenticity Atlas will help you understand and embrace your sexuality. Helping you find clarity and affirmation in who you truly are 💕. If people you love are in the pride community, this guide will help you be a supportive and compassionate ally to them 🏳️🌈

We want you to live in your truth, stand in your power, and let go of any shame around your desires, We love and appreciate you, and we’re holding space for you to live boldly, love freely, and feel deeply proud of who you are ❣️