Y’all had sex with no condom… and no commitment. You thought it was just sex. So did he. Until protection got sloppy, feelings got messy, or that “pull-out” plan failed. Now you’re pacing in the bathroom, waiting on a test, wondering how you got here. Let’s be honest: it’s not just about a missed period—it’s about missed boundaries. We don’t talk enough about the emotional weight of sleeping with men who can't hold space for anything beyond orgasm. Therefore, as Mother’s Day nears, we’re kicking off Babies, Boundaries & Bad Decisions in a bold 3-part series. Every week this #AlignedApril, we’ll be sending you the realest, most necessary conversations on Sex, Soul Ties & Smart Choices so you can prevent pregnancy scares from blurred boundaries. Because as your coochie coaches it’s our job to help you make good decisions while getting good D 😈
Just because it was intense, passionate, or toe-curling doesn’t mean it was intimate. When the sex is intense, your brain gets flooded with dopamine (the feel-good one) and oxytocin (the bonding hormone that women produce during orgasm and childbirth). That combo creates false intimacy. A closeness that feels deeper than it really is. Add in fuzzy boundaries and a lack of protection—and suddenly your situationship feels like a situationship plus a missed period. Let’s keep it real: You didn’t mean to fall, he didn’t mean to have such a weak pull-out game 😩 and now you’re sitting with consequences neither of you were ready for.
However, not every pregnancy is accidental. Some men want a tie to you. Not because they’re ready for a family. But because they’re not ready to lose access to you. 🚩 Reproductive abuse is real. 🚩 It’s the Offset/Cardi B dynamic. Love-bomb. Betray. Split Up. Apologize. Reunite. Repeat. Meanwhile—another baby. Another excuse. Another leash. Click here to read our blog about the emotional or psychological cycle of abuse many women are in and how to get out of it. Some men will risk pregnancy—but won’t risk responsibility. They’ll shoot the club up, but disappear when it’s time for doctor’s visits, baby wipes, or even consistent communication. Accidentally on purpose is a real thing. Reproductive abuse can look like:
Skipping condoms without consent
Finishing inside you “on accident”
Saying “I want to trap you” like it’s romantic
Not caring what it costs you—your body, your future, or your peace
And no, a baby won’t make him love you better. It’ll just expose how little he was capable of in the first place. Some men don’t want partnership. They want possession. They don’t want to co-parent. They want control. And a baby is their easiest way in. You deserve the fun—without the fallout. You deserve the D—without the downfall- Get Undicmatized NOW to get laid without getting played ❤️🔥
